Modest Mondays

**I know this is Tuesday. Since the Windows 10 update a few days ago, I have been having trouble with my computer. It has taken me two days to get this short post written due to the stalls and Blue/Black screen issues. Frustrating, yes, but I pray it will be resolved soon.


Hello Hello,

Welcome to the 1st installment of Modest Mondays! It is my desire to provide some things to think about when trying to wade through today’s fashion to find Modest clothing that work.  I think the first thing we must understand is how to dress the body we have. Not everyone is blessed with a modelesque body type; I know I’m not. Some of us are short, some are tall. We may be petite, slender, pleasingly plump, or heavyset. No matter the figure we’ve been blessed with, we must learn how to dress it modestly.  That being said, let’s talk Pencil Skirts.

Ah, the pencil skirt; the skirt by Christian Dior that had its debut in 1940. It is a beautiful skirt and definitely feminine. If worn correctly it can be flattering to a number of figures (not all). This 78 year old garment has undergone some tweaking over the years, and it has definitely gotten tighter. This slim skirt works well with a number of blouses (remember those) and tops.  Skinny or plump, it needs to be chosen carefully and worn properly in order to be a modest and flattering choice.

You see pencil skirts a lot these days – short, long, mini and midi. I have seen plenty worn totally wrong; oftentimes too tight and improperly fitted. Individuals who have a little more in the stomach, hips and thigh area have to be especially careful with this type of skirt. Those who are small and shapely also have to be careful with fit in order to keep their outfit modest and flattering. Most will have to be mindful when choosing a pencil skirt these days because so much of the fabric is made with stretchy materials, designed to really hug the body. Though some should, not everyone will have to pass on this skirt if they will keep some things in mind when shopping for one.


  1. PREPARE THE FOUNDATION: Shapewear is made for a reason; use it! If you’re gonna wear the pencil skirt then you need a foundation garment; the skirt is not supposed to show lumps and bumps. Foundation garments (shapewear) cut out or down on the jiggle factor and gives you a smoother look. Find the one (Rago, Spanks, etc…) that fits and smooths you best.
  2. FORGET THE SIZE # ON THE TAG AND GO FOR THE PERFECT FIT: Try the Skirt on. Choose the Skirt that fits you well.
    1. Purchase the skirt that best fits the widest part of you – the hips and backside. You can always alter it (or have it altered) if a little too big in the waist.
    2. If the skirt singles out your stomach, try another size.
    3. If it shows every lump and bump, try another size.
    4. If it hugs your back, hips and/or thighs too tightly, try another size.
    5. Not all pencil skirts are the same. You want to find the skirt that is flattering on you. If it makes you look odd, boxy, misshapen… try a different one (for example, if you have a fuller figure you may need a pencil skirt with darts).
    6. You do not want it too tight; there should be no pulling or puckering in the skirt.
  3. SAY NO TO SHORT: The skirt should not be too short. Opt for skirts below your knee.
  4. HAVE A SEAT: When trying your skirt on, take a seat. Can you sit down and stand up easily? If not, try another one. How does it fit?  Does it ride up? Does it bunch at your thighs? If the answer is yes then try on a different one.
  5. TAKE A WALK: Can you move freely? Can you take full steps? Or do you have to literally wiggle your way across the floor? If you can’t walk normal then choose a different skirt.
  6. DON’T BE AFRAID TO CAMOUFLAGE: If you find a pencil skirt that fits nicely below the stomach and buttocks but not so good above them, all is not necessarily lost. Before you swear off the skirt, try pairing with a top that is long enough and flowy enough to softly drape over the problem areas. If you can’t find a top that works well alone, consider adding a soft draping cardigan or a light weight cocoon kimono.
  7. BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR FIGURE: Pencil Skirts can look good on various shapes; however, we must be truthful about the skin we are in. Be honest with yourself; if you know it is not a flattering style for you then move on to a more suitable type skirt.
  8. REMEMBER WHO’S CHILD YOU ARE AND WHO YOU REPRESENT: Would Christ approve of the skirt you’ve chosen? If you can’t honestly answer yes, then choose a different pencil skirt or skirt type.

It is worth taking the time to discover what styles work best for your body type. Whatever your size and shape, you can look nice and modest at the same time.

Until next time!

Juanita Deloris



18 thoughts on “Modest Mondays

  1. Erin

    I love a classy pencil skirt!

    1. It certainly can be a great addition to one’s wardrobe!
      Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂

  2. Awesome! I am new to the fashion tip blogging world….in terms of reading it, I mean. So fascinating! I really appreciate your thoughts on how to represent Christ in what we wear. Blessings!

    1. Hello Bonnie,
      Thanks for taking time to read and share your thoughts. I am happy to know you found it helpful 🙂
      Blessings to you!

  3. Antanesha

    Thank you for your post! So real and tactful!

    1. Hello Antanesha,
      Thanks for taking time to read and share your thoughts. I am glad you found it useful 🙂

  4. Delores K.

    THANK YOU, for your common sense advice on how to look chic, and not cheap.
    In 1980s I has a pencil skirt (sort of) that flares at the bottom a bit, and in the 1990s had a looser shirt with the second jacket type you show with the flare from the waist. Loved both of them. But my favorites, as a Christian, was late 70s, when gaucho pants and maxi skirts were in fashion, worn with colorful striped tights and mid-calf boots, and lest we forget wonderful hats! Oh, to go back to those fashions.
    For the gals today I would like to relay something my grandfather taught me. The more covered a young lady is, the more interested a man will be. He said, decent men are not interested in anything that leaves nothing to the imagination. . . and for what it’s worth, I found this very true. The less that was covered brought more trashy men and fewer decent men. So, ladies, what is your worth? Your price tag depends on the wrapper – chic or cheap?

    1. Hello Deloris! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Very well said! My parents taught us the same. And it is very true. One thing I have noticed nowadays though is that guys do not give the reaction some of these women think they would when they are baring all to the world. I have seen them [men] give looks of disgust and even anger at the sight of some of the girls so scantily clad.
      You don’t see hats as much today and gloves seem to be totally forgotten. The styles of yesterday, oh my how beautiful. How feminine! 😉
      Blessings to you.

  5. Rebecca

    Modesty makes a huge difference in your overall appearance and look. Plus it shows how you value yourself. Nice article.

    1. Hello Rebecca,
      This is so true. Sometimes I look around and I wonder if anyone has ever talked to some of these young girls and women about their value and need for self-respect.
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🙂
      Blessings to you!

  6. This is fairly unique content – thanks for putting it out there! I’ve become a big fan of pencil skirts over the past few years and they most definitely are not all made the same. You are correct that shape wear is a MUST! 🙂

    1. Hello Ginger,
      Thank you for reading the post and sharing your thoughts. I have seen some in pencil skirts, and I just wanted to gift them some shapewear. I remember when women used to know what looked good on them, but now it seems that many have lost that ability. Sad indeed.
      Blessings to you!

  7. It’s important to dress like the child of God we know we are. Modesty is beautiful.

    1. Hello Tara,
      Thanks for stopping by!
      I agree with you 100%.

      God bless you!

  8. Great post!! I am a huge believer in modesty. Thank you for writing this.

    1. Hello LaDonna,

      Thanks for reading the post and commenting. I am right there with ya, modesty is very important.
      You know, Adam and Even knew to cover themselves after trading their innocence for “opened” eyes. Looking at the human body you know exactly what should be covered. It is sad that so many don’t understand the importance of modest, even from a natural standpoint.
      God bless you!

  9. Thank you for this honest post! And for the pictures! It really does help to know what looks best on each body type! ❤

    1. Hello Donna,
      Thank you for taking time to read the post. I am glad you found it useful!
      God bless you.

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